“The name’s Kuzco. Emperor Kuzco.”

Emperor Kuzco from Disney’s “The Emperor’s New Groove” (arguably one of the greatest cartoon movies known to man) is exactly the kind of friend you don’t want to be, at least pre-transformation. He epitomizes selfishness. He thinks of only himself. His wants are most important. The world revolves around him. The perfect world begins and ends with him (or so he thought). He is the king of the world.

Don’t be a Kuzco.

It’s not like this is really news or blog worthy. But there is a new spin on this we would like to take. Have you ever thought about how looking outward to help others would affect your sexual views? The sexual wholeness model (INSERT HYPERLINK) shows us that our relationships and the emotional feelings we have towards others is so important in complete picture of sexuality. In order to be totally whole, we need to understand that how we treat others affects our own growth and views about sex. When we choose to serve others and have a mindset of service, we are more complete as a person and as a sexual being. We know we should respect others feelings and they should respect ours. We understand that life is not all about us.

Like post-llama Kuzco.

Here are some introspective questions for you to think about to gauge your selfless meter. How do your answers relate to your view of sexuality?

1. You are running through a hallway and are late to class. You accidentally bump into someone. Do you stop to apologize?
2. You are looking forward to going out to the movies with your friends and your Mom asks for help in the kitchen? Do you help or rush out the door pretending not to hear her?
3. You and your friend are having a conversation. Who talks more? Who feels heard? Who leaves the conversation uplifted?
4. You see a car accident happen. Do you stick around to help the people out?
5. You see a new person sitting alone in church. Your usual group of friends are waving you over. Who do you sit with?

There aren’t any right or wrong answers to these questions per say, but how we approach these situations can reveal how well we are doing to serve others. It also can show us how we feel about others and their feelings, a key aspect of a sexually whole life. “For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap” (Galatians 6:7). When you sow service you reap a mindset of loving others and thus live a fulfilled, happy life.

If you are a Kuzco now, decide to become a llama so you can be a post-llama Kuzco. Serve others and become whole.